Adoption Scams / Failed (?) matches
A lot of you have noticed that we haven't updated our blog for a while. Aside from life getting busy it has been mainly because of some things/people we have encountered.
In the last update we informed everyone that we were live on parentprofiles.com - and boy did that expose us as an adoptive couple. It's great, don't get me wrong. Being on here and going through what we are going through is normal when adopting, so don't think it is parentprofiles fault. It is really just the journey of adoption.
Within our first week of being on the site (this is the site we pay for separate and has nothing to do with our agency) we were contacted by one scammer [[which was caught right away]], two real potential expecting parents, and another scammer [[caught after a long conversation]]. I am not afraid of privacy issues for scammers- so here is the first contact email:
Red flags:
1. The phrase "put to birth."
2. We got an email with the same name 2 hours later saying "..since I and David had decided..." (it was Neville originally)
3. Typos like "willin!g." There was a weird exclamation point in the middle of the second email's sentences , too.
4. Parent Profiles allows adoptive couples to communicate and give "scam alerts"--we looked up Whitney's name and there were about 10 scam alerts on her.
I know a lot of people want to know about the real potential expecting parents that we were in contact with - but for their privacy I really feel we shouldn't give out much information--we can however tell you how we were feeling.
When we were contacted by "R" we got really excited. We were thinking, "Could this be real already?" Is this the start to our story?" Every email or text message we got was so exciting. We were very careful from the beginning not wanting to make "R" feel stressed or pressured in anyway. "R" is due in a couple months and is having a baby boy. Eventually our conversation died off - we are unsure of what she has chosen- and we pray that whatever decision she has or will make is the best one for her and her little one. After the conversation died off -our hearts were broken. It is our fault really- for letting ourselves get too excited too fast.
We were contacted by "S" shortly after conversations died off with "R". We guarded our heart more on this one. We were still completely open, but just held back our excitement. "S" was pretty open with us in telling us that she was on edge on whether she was going to chose adoption. Ultimately after a couple weeks of talking we are unsure of her decision. She knows we are here if she needs us- to talk or meet. We are giving her -her space -and we have a small feeling she has not chosen adoption. This is completely okay with us! We ultimately want the person or family that chooses us to know they are making the right decision for themselves and their little one. It will make our relationship stronger:)
We really know that when the time comes and it happens that it was truly meant to be. We know we are on this journey for a reason. There is a little one that we are meant to be with and an expecting parent that we are meant to meet. Until that day we will wait as patiently as we can!
All this has had us procrastinating on our adoption profile for our agency's family profile book. We have the first three pages just how we want them --but for some reason that last page we were having trouble with. Our adoption counselor had some minor changes on our rough draft, and once we went through it another time we made some major changes ourselves!
We did finish the second rough draft today and are about to send it in for a second review!
Our deadline to have it completed and sent in is Nov 21st! We are hoping to have it in by the end of next week! We will see about that though:)
Thank you friends/family/strangers for all your support!
Until next time,
Jordan and Kaylah------patiently waiting family
1. The phrase "put to birth."
2. We got an email with the same name 2 hours later saying "..since I and David had decided..." (it was Neville originally)
3. Typos like "willin!g." There was a weird exclamation point in the middle of the second email's sentences , too.
4. Parent Profiles allows adoptive couples to communicate and give "scam alerts"--we looked up Whitney's name and there were about 10 scam alerts on her.
I know a lot of people want to know about the real potential expecting parents that we were in contact with - but for their privacy I really feel we shouldn't give out much information--we can however tell you how we were feeling.
When we were contacted by "R" we got really excited. We were thinking, "Could this be real already?" Is this the start to our story?" Every email or text message we got was so exciting. We were very careful from the beginning not wanting to make "R" feel stressed or pressured in anyway. "R" is due in a couple months and is having a baby boy. Eventually our conversation died off - we are unsure of what she has chosen- and we pray that whatever decision she has or will make is the best one for her and her little one. After the conversation died off -our hearts were broken. It is our fault really- for letting ourselves get too excited too fast.
We were contacted by "S" shortly after conversations died off with "R". We guarded our heart more on this one. We were still completely open, but just held back our excitement. "S" was pretty open with us in telling us that she was on edge on whether she was going to chose adoption. Ultimately after a couple weeks of talking we are unsure of her decision. She knows we are here if she needs us- to talk or meet. We are giving her -her space -and we have a small feeling she has not chosen adoption. This is completely okay with us! We ultimately want the person or family that chooses us to know they are making the right decision for themselves and their little one. It will make our relationship stronger:)
We really know that when the time comes and it happens that it was truly meant to be. We know we are on this journey for a reason. There is a little one that we are meant to be with and an expecting parent that we are meant to meet. Until that day we will wait as patiently as we can!
All this has had us procrastinating on our adoption profile for our agency's family profile book. We have the first three pages just how we want them --but for some reason that last page we were having trouble with. Our adoption counselor had some minor changes on our rough draft, and once we went through it another time we made some major changes ourselves!
We did finish the second rough draft today and are about to send it in for a second review!
Our deadline to have it completed and sent in is Nov 21st! We are hoping to have it in by the end of next week! We will see about that though:)
Thank you friends/family/strangers for all your support!
Until next time,
Jordan and Kaylah------patiently waiting family
Keep your chins up! I loved reading your honesty and am praying for you daily! I myself was adopted and my parents had the same struggles as you are facing now, and that was 22 years ago. My husband and I are considering adoption ourselves soon and hope to be able to put all of our trust in God though the journey will be tough. God has a plan for you guys <3
ReplyDeleteThanks Alicia:) It's amazing hearing from all the people that are following our story and how their lives are touched by adoption. God has a plan for you as well!!
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